It’s easy to do though, we get up and knock over a cup of coffee, the cat pukes on the carpet and we drop buttered toast down our top! Or sometimes its a text from the bank to say there’s no money in your account to pay your phone bill, a crappy email from your boss or you get stuck in traffic and find yourself late again. We’ve all been there right?
Its so easy to be affected by all this, you feel your stress level rising and a tightening in your stomach — another bad day! Your confidence in yourself wobbles and already you’re dreaming of bed time or something indulgent to ease the stress at the end of the day!
What’s troublesome about all this negative chatter though is that it can define your mood and outlook for the rest of the day, you end up looking for all thing things going wrong instead of noticing all the things going right, you miss out on celebrating that because you’re too busy feel worried or defeated!
So what if next time your day goes badly you made a choice to keep an open mind? Because when we choose to reframe our negative thoughts we’re more likely to see the good things that do happen.
Here are 3 tips to remember the next time you start to have a bad day:
1) One bad moment does not equal a bad day, in fact even a few disastrous incidents does not stack up to a day of bad luck or things constantly going wrong for you. Don’t let every stressful situation that unfolds define how you want to feel or how you see your day going. You can acknowledge the mess up for what it is and move on, good and bad stuff can happen side by side, you don’t have to carry that negative energy around for the rest of the day!
2) If you get caught up in the moment and feel yourself spiralling press pause for a moment. Make a hot cuppa, read a book or listen to a few of your favourite songs. Taking a step back from whatever has gone wrong can help you to firstly see the situation for what is truly is, then you can refocus and move on.
3) If you struggle to redefine your energy or press pause in the bad moments of the day then create yourself an emotional anchor. This can be as mentioned above a certain song, object or activity, or a feeling or mantra that you zoom in on when you feel yourself struggling under the stress of a bad day.
You may have to try out a few different ones first to find the anchor that works for you but having this go-to setting to immediately ground your emotions to will certainly cut through all the noise that feels hard and overwhelming to manage in the moment.
My best tip here is to combine all 3 too, because they all fit nicely together and used in tandem will give you your best chance to feel more confident in yourself when you feel like the world is against you and this is going to be the worst day ever!
Bonus Tip: If you feel like you’ve dropped a ball here and there try writing out a brain dump of all the things that are building up and overwhelming you on to this task list to help you prioritise and get things done - you’ll feel better for getting organised!
Which tip might work for you? Let me know in the comments below or come find me over on Instagram.
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